Hey Guys,
Sorry!! I know its been ages since I last posted. You know how it goes during the end of the year. Parties all around. Woot woot. Well not exactly parties, my uncle got married and it was amazing. One of these days I will post some pics of the epic day.
So the holidays wouldn't just go by without some epic realization. And I know I had mine.
Perhaps playing the victim is something that people are addicted to. It sounds like a horror story to me. Seriously. To be trapped in a pool of self inflicting misery. Why would anyone want that? Why would anyone not make the decision to change that?
Darrel says that everyone needs to reach their pain limit. There has to be a point whereby you look at your like and think: "No, this is not for me", and then you make the decision to change your life around. But then some people put themselves through so much. You wanna know whats the worst part? The worst part is that they don't want to change. Why not? Why not want to make life better?
Darrel also says that sometimes you can't tell a person exactly whats messed up in their lives. You gotta let them figure it out for themselves. I guess waiting for that to happen has been a real test of patience for me.
Whats worse is when they want sympathy. I can't give it because I know that I'm just feeding the pain-body that lives within them... That haunts their lives, that makes them go through more pain. Like I said before, sympathy is not love. It's like encouraging negativity into their lives. In my head, I see it as a snowball rolling down a hill. As it rolls it picks up speed and more snow until it spirals out of control and into its own destruction. It takes down anything and everything in its path.
So when I see this sympathy snowball lurking its evil head around the corner, I do my best not to give into it. It's hard not to give in, because its like I feel guilty for not giving sympathy to a victim because they assume that I'm not giving them love... because we give sympathy to those that we love right? Wrong! We give love to those that we love, not sympathy. The guilt shows up because we know that victims don't understand.
So here's the thing, not let the guilt creep in, because the reality is that guilt is just as negative as sympathy. If you have chosen to walk down this path with me, then there is no room for positive liabilities. Meaning there is no room for negativity that disguises itself as positivity. So if you want to stop playing the victim you have to stop encouraging others from playing the victim, by not giving them the sympathy that they want. It's cool in a way because when we see others behaving as victims, then it becomes easier to stop ourselves from behaving as victims.
Now don't forget, Rome wasn't built in a day. These things take time, and time is what you need to give yourself.
Laters people.
xoxo
