Desperation Day - or not? I'm thinking NOT!

As we all know, tomorrow is Valentine's day. So if you don't have a Valentine to spend the day with, SHUT UP and listen to me!

Valentine's Day is day to celebrate love. Celebrating love is always a joyous event, even if you don't have a someone special in your life. But many of us will go out and make an effort to show the whole world how anti-Valentine's Day they are. Some people even throw anti-vday parties. Many will sit around feeling sad and lonely because they are not in a relationship on Valentine's Day.

All I see is lack. And lack attracts lack. So if you ever want a Valentine, then stop feeling sorry for lonely state. I know of people that are happy being single but they still feel sad for themselves on Valentine's Day. I mean the day now has the power to make people play the victim. Why not celebrate the joy of love tomorrow, instead of cocooning yourself in anti-love actions?

I am single and as much as the next person I would love to be in a happy loving relationship, well not right now, but some day I will be ready for that. I am not feeling sad for myself for not having a Valentine tomorrow. I am actually excited to be able to see all the happy loving couples enjoy their night. Many people see Valentine's as a day of commercialized love, which it is for the most part, but its also a day where busy modern-day couples, step away from their stressed filled lives to celebrate the love in their lives.  That's what makes Valentine's Day special for most people. But celebrating the love in your life should happen all the time, but its just not possible for everyone.

So if you are single and looking for love, then stop feeling sorry for yourself and get yourself ready to celebrate love because like attracts like, and so if you want to attract love into your life then go do something loving. Fill your day will love. Love yourself (use yesterday's blog as a guideline), or show some love for the people in your life. I baked chocolate chip cookies to give to the people I love. I have never felt this good about Valentine's Day in my life, and that includes the times that I did have a Valentine.

So if I can be happy about Valentine's Day, then whats stopping you? Use the law of attraction to bring love into your life and soon it won't matter whether it's Valentine's Day or not, because you will be out there celebrating love all the time.

Remember that you are beautiful and you are amazing, you should not be crying over a large bowl of ice-cream; you should be out and about strutting your stuff and taking life on your terms. Happiness is a choice, after all.

Happy Valentine's Day Everyone.

PS: Please pass this post on to everyone you know, that is "celebrating" desperation day.

Love to all <3 

Come fall in love again

If you've been the victim of having an unsatisfying love life, then now is the time to change it. But first you have realize that it is not going your way. Some of us might be so consumed by the same old bad type of relationship that we have that we don't even realize that there is a reason to change.

So lets list out some traits of being in an unhappy relationship:

• You go into one relationship after the other, without giving yourself time to recover from the previous relationship.
• Your relationships do not last very long.
• You are distrusting of your partner.
• You require constant communication and contact with your partner.
• You feel alone in the relationship.
• You feel like you are the only one putting in the effort to make the relationship work.
• You and your partner argue more than you communicate.
• You feel uneasy.
• You feel like you need to be rescued and are waiting for someone to rescue you.
• You are still hung up by the "one that got away".
• You are a sucker for punishment.
• You are more tolerant and understanding than you should be.
• You often get taken advantaged off, due to your helpful, understanding and forgiving nature.
• You need someone else to pay you compliments.
• You really really really want to be in a loving relationship.
• I deserve everything that happened to me.

There are more but those are the most common. If you can identify with one or more of these concepts then you need to realize that it is time to change for the better. Unfortunately you do need an Aha moment to see this and perhaps if you have meandered on to this blog than this is a Divine sign to tell you that you need to take a hard look at your life choices.

You have to understand that you are attracting these things to yourself. Your life as it is right now is a reflection of all your past thoughts and choices and if you are unhappy then to change things, all you have to do is make new choices and to think differently.

In order to change things externally, you have to change them internally first. You need to become aware of yourself. Do you value yourself? What are you really worth? What do you really deserve? Do you love yourself? If you have no self worth or value, if you believe that you deserve to be in a bad relationship and if you have no love for yourself then there lies your root problem. The old saying goes that we accept only what we believe we deserve. Have you been accepting unhappiness because you believe you deserve it?

Start by increasing your love for yourself and automatically you will develop a sense of self worth, you will value yourself and the quality of life that you live and you know that you deserve far more than you have accepted for yourself. Loving yourself will not make you vain because true self love comes from accepting yourself as you are and for appreciating yourself for what you have. 

Remember that feeling you have when you fall in love with someone? The blindness to all flaws, the butterflies and your heart racing away. Sometimes you feel dazzled and oblivious to anything anyone else has to say about the person you like. Well, I want you to go through all of that again, with yourself. Every time you look in the mirror becomes mesmerized and feel your heart skip a beat. Become excited to look at yourself, to think of yourself, to spend time alone with yourself. Make a list of all the things you love about yourself. Even if you are pretending, and even if you really don't like certain things about yourself, write it down anyway. Spend time doing things that you love doing. Pamper yourself. This Valentine's Day buy yourself a present? Over time you will believe it and people around you will see how amazing you are.

I did it. I spent a night thinking about me and writing down all the things I like about me and I even wrote down things that I didn't like, as if I did like. The next day I woke up feeling amazing and I decided to dress my best for myself. I felt happy and blissful. When I went to campus, three different people complimented me on the things that I had wrote down on my list. It reinforced my happiness because some of the things I was complimented on were things that I didn't actually like about myself. Again that night I added things to my list and I had the same experience things. Every night I found more and more things that I loved about myself and over time I truly began to fall in love with me.

You see, how can you expect someone to love you if you don't even love you. The more you love yourself, the more you attract people that will love you into your life. You are already amazing you just need to see it. :)

 

Spiritual Relationships: Twin Souls

In my last blog I discussed soul mate relationships. Here I will be discussing the Twin Soul relationship.

A twin soul is one soul that has been split into two, these two counterparts of one soul go onto leading separate life missions. Each half goes out into the world to learn and understand its own concepts and to encounter its own soul mate connections. 

This relationship is so powerful that it can cause great joy and it can also cause great misery. Which is why twin souls may not meet each other at all in this lifetime, it may take many lives before they become ready for each other. This is because twin souls have a mirror relationship, whereby they reflect of each other exactly how they perceive themselves. Just like when you look into a mirror you see all your perfections but you may also see all your flaws, so to is a relationship with your twin soul.

The happiness that is brought about by a twin soul relationship is due to there being a perfect harmony and understanding between the two individuals. This relationship only gives to each other. There is support and strength. Often twin souls have innate trust and loyalty towards each other that makes them secure enough to be themselves, free of judgement, and secure enough to lack neediness and are not clingy. However, this can only happen if both souls are whole and secure within themselves. If not, then the relationship will cause pain and suffering for both individuals. For example, if one person does not believe that they deserve to be loved, then no matter what the other does, they will always feel unloved. Or, if one person feels insecure about themselves, then their insecurities will be reflected back to them.

Therefore, before you go about asking and looking for your twin soul, it is best to really look at yourself. Determine who you are and release all your insecurities. Become whole, loving and accepting of yourself. Learn all your life lessons. Only then will you be ready for your twin soul. However, also remember that even though you might be ready for your twin soul, it does not mean that your twin is ready for you. Have patience because if you force your twin soul into something that he/she is not ready for, then it can still end miserably because you twin soul will still see the lack that they have within themselves, about themselves through. Becoming whole is often difficult, I know that I am not ready for a twin soul relationship, because even though you put in lots of hard work to overcome your shortcoming and becoming accepting, there may be one small part of you that is keeping away from being whole. You may not even recognize it because it is that small. But in front of your twin soul, it can be something huge.

I do believe that if both parties put in the effort of helping each other to become whole, then the twin soul relationship can work happily. However, I have noticed that when a twin soul relationship is not working, the relationship breaks up and each person goes on to rediscover themselves and to work through their own issues. Sometimes, twin souls leave each other completely for months and years, sometimes they stay in contact, as friends. But when they have reached the point of individual wholeness, the twin souls find each other again.

Lastly, its important to note that souls do not understand things such as race, religion or even physical traits. That means that if you are looking for a white, christian woman, with red hair and a shapely body, then you might miss you twin soul completely. You might not even recognize him/her even if they are standing right in front of you, telling you that she/he is your twin soul. The ego has a set of what it believes to be attractive. The ego has its opinion of what characteristics it wants, whether its physically or it is personality traits. The soul doesn't. Therefore, you have to see beyond what you ego wants in order to find your twin soul.

On way to attract your twin soul into your life is to become whole. The more you begin to love and accept yourself and the more secure you become, the more you bring your twin soul into your life. Becoming an energy ball of love. Your twin soul will gravitate towards the wholeness because it too wants to be whole and complete.

Another way is to ask for it from either an angel of your choice, a deity of your choice or to ask God. Before you go to sleep, ask them to help you be with your twin soul while you sleep. It may take a few nights but soon you will start dreaming about being with your twin soul. The twin soul is faceless most of the time, but if you met your twin soul already, you will see their face in your dreams.

Good luck :)

Spiritual Relationships: Soul mates

Hey there guys,

Since its V-day this Friday, I decided to post about spiritual relationships this week. 
So what is a spiritual relationship? Its bond between two people that have been connected through Divine intervention.

Sometimes people refer to spiritual relationships as soul-mates and/or twin souls connections, and sometimes karmic connections. These are not one and the same thing. Soul relationships have different purposes and differing connections, some have nothing to do with love at all.

When I was younger, I watched an episode of Oprah, where a woman referred to soul mates as being anyone that we come into contact with. This happens to be the absolute truth of soul mates. You see we all come from the same place, we are all connected to each other. This is the oneness that many spiritual teachers advise us to experience. In Nirvana, we are all one and the same, and we are all connected by the absolute truth. However, just like it is the absolute truth that the sun doesn't move, the Earth rotates around it, it is also the relative truth that the sun rises in the east and sets in the west. Therefore, it is important to understand the relative truth of soul mate connections.

Every soul comes down to this world to fulfill its own understanding, through experiencing concepts, because one cannot know certain things if one has not experienced it. For example, you cannot know kindness unless someone has been kind to you and then you show kindness upon someone. The concept is kindness and the experience is the act of kindness. Therefore, soul mates come onto Earth with us to teach us these concepts through experience. How does that work you ask? In Nirvana, your soul determines the experiences it wants to have, and then it forms agreements with other souls to teach these lessons to each other. Then when the time is right on Earth, the two or more souls come together to learn from each other.

So the catch is that not every experience is a pleasant one. Some are horrific, others are just uncomfortable, but all experiences turn our lives around and help us to grow spiritually, if we allow ourselves to learn from the experience. This can be done by not being blinded by our ego's need to feel victimized. 

So a soul mate can be anyone really, maybe even a pet. Your teacher, your ex-boyfriend, your best friend, your parents, cousins, siblings, even your worst enemy.  If someone comes into your life and gives you an experience that alters your life in a upsetting way first (to say the least in some cases) but then it shines a new light once the storm is over, then chances are that that person is your soul mate. 

Often we come across these relationships when dating. If you find yourself in a relationship with a person that abuses you... physically, mentally, emotionally or through controlling actions... You are in desperate need to learn your soul mate lesson. Relationships like these are loudly telling you that you don't have enough self value. Accepting abuse is a sign that your sense of self worth is shattered into pieces. Once you learn that you are worth more than that, you will move forward in life. It's easier said than done, but this is just an example of a type of soul mate relationship.

A relationship with your soul mate is not a very easy one. Tensions might fly high and you might get into heated arguments often. This happens because of the intensity of the connection between you two. The soul recognizes its counter part, and it is often struggling to learn its lesson and move forward. However, these relationships can work out and it can be very happy, so if you chose to have a relationship with your soul mate, then you have to understand that it takes a lot of work and that both parties have to put in the effort.

I just want to add a shout out to my soul mate Ashmika. Just yesterday we laughed at the way our relationship happened. She and I were in the same class in Grade 11, but we never really spoke or hung out. In fact she didn't like me very much and I didn't care to notice that she didn't like me. LOL. But then through circumstances we started talking and getting to know each other and 8 years later we are best friends. Not even distance can separate us. 

Maybe this Valentine's Day you can share some love for the soul mates in your life too?

PS: My friend Brad is single and in his words "ready for the mingle", so if you're interested please drop me a comment. :-D