Come fall in love again

If you've been the victim of having an unsatisfying love life, then now is the time to change it. But first you have realize that it is not going your way. Some of us might be so consumed by the same old bad type of relationship that we have that we don't even realize that there is a reason to change.

So lets list out some traits of being in an unhappy relationship:

• You go into one relationship after the other, without giving yourself time to recover from the previous relationship.
• Your relationships do not last very long.
• You are distrusting of your partner.
• You require constant communication and contact with your partner.
• You feel alone in the relationship.
• You feel like you are the only one putting in the effort to make the relationship work.
• You and your partner argue more than you communicate.
• You feel uneasy.
• You feel like you need to be rescued and are waiting for someone to rescue you.
• You are still hung up by the "one that got away".
• You are a sucker for punishment.
• You are more tolerant and understanding than you should be.
• You often get taken advantaged off, due to your helpful, understanding and forgiving nature.
• You need someone else to pay you compliments.
• You really really really want to be in a loving relationship.
• I deserve everything that happened to me.

There are more but those are the most common. If you can identify with one or more of these concepts then you need to realize that it is time to change for the better. Unfortunately you do need an Aha moment to see this and perhaps if you have meandered on to this blog than this is a Divine sign to tell you that you need to take a hard look at your life choices.

You have to understand that you are attracting these things to yourself. Your life as it is right now is a reflection of all your past thoughts and choices and if you are unhappy then to change things, all you have to do is make new choices and to think differently.

In order to change things externally, you have to change them internally first. You need to become aware of yourself. Do you value yourself? What are you really worth? What do you really deserve? Do you love yourself? If you have no self worth or value, if you believe that you deserve to be in a bad relationship and if you have no love for yourself then there lies your root problem. The old saying goes that we accept only what we believe we deserve. Have you been accepting unhappiness because you believe you deserve it?

Start by increasing your love for yourself and automatically you will develop a sense of self worth, you will value yourself and the quality of life that you live and you know that you deserve far more than you have accepted for yourself. Loving yourself will not make you vain because true self love comes from accepting yourself as you are and for appreciating yourself for what you have. 

Remember that feeling you have when you fall in love with someone? The blindness to all flaws, the butterflies and your heart racing away. Sometimes you feel dazzled and oblivious to anything anyone else has to say about the person you like. Well, I want you to go through all of that again, with yourself. Every time you look in the mirror becomes mesmerized and feel your heart skip a beat. Become excited to look at yourself, to think of yourself, to spend time alone with yourself. Make a list of all the things you love about yourself. Even if you are pretending, and even if you really don't like certain things about yourself, write it down anyway. Spend time doing things that you love doing. Pamper yourself. This Valentine's Day buy yourself a present? Over time you will believe it and people around you will see how amazing you are.

I did it. I spent a night thinking about me and writing down all the things I like about me and I even wrote down things that I didn't like, as if I did like. The next day I woke up feeling amazing and I decided to dress my best for myself. I felt happy and blissful. When I went to campus, three different people complimented me on the things that I had wrote down on my list. It reinforced my happiness because some of the things I was complimented on were things that I didn't actually like about myself. Again that night I added things to my list and I had the same experience things. Every night I found more and more things that I loved about myself and over time I truly began to fall in love with me.

You see, how can you expect someone to love you if you don't even love you. The more you love yourself, the more you attract people that will love you into your life. You are already amazing you just need to see it. :)